Imagine a scenario when one of your children turns 16 and you buy them a new car. When you turn over the keys you say, I just have a few rules I want you to follow:

· Don’t text and drive

· Don’t drink and drive

· Don’t have more than 3 friends in the car at one time

· Don’t exceed the speed limit

All of these rules seem logical, after all, they are to protect your child.

After a couple weeks, you are coming home from work driving in the right lane when a car full of teen-agers goes flying by you like you’re standing still. The driver doesn’t notice you, but you are fairly sure it’s your son. You want to be certain, so you speed up to get a closer look. It isn’t easy, but you manage to catch up and see it is your son, and you see why he didn’t notice you; his eyes are